Away, Against, Toward: The 3 Neurotic Trends

A child is small. It starts out life mostly dependent on others for survival, essentially helpless and at the mercy of the people around him. … Now, to this child one of two things may happen. On the one hand, the child may experience genuine warmth and affection from his parents. This satisfies the child’s […]

If You’ve Ever Lost Someone

Loss doesn’t happen the same way each time. … If you’ve ever lost someone, by your own actions — like because you were mean, or pushed them away, or did something stupid — apologize. Whenever possible, make amends. Forgive yourself. … If you’ve ever lost someone, by their actions — like because they were mean, or pushed you […]

Believe Me When I Say

I hope you believe me when I say— You are going to be okay. You are okay.  … You are not your mistakes. You are not a mistake. … You are not lacking. You are not too much. … You are worthy of love. You are loved. … You’ve done enough. You are enough. ♥ … […]

Square Poem: If we both fall in love

So, yesterday I saw a post about a “square poem” often attributed to Lewis Carroll (although as to who the real author is seems ambiguous). A square poem is apparently one whose words you could read either in rows (horizontally) or in columns (vertically); the poem would read the same. Here’s Lewis Carroll’s square poem: […]

Things I Don’t Know How to Do

cut my bangs • squeeze venom out of fangs • ride a mountain bike • confess to a boy I like • swim in the ocean • contact a Martian • cross a tightrope • speak Latin to the Pope • cook as well as my mother does • be the optimist I once was • multiply large numbers in my head • do backflips […]

The Vacancy of Leaving

Do they have a word for the vacancy you feel after leaving? … I dreamed that I was back in a familiar place, which was home to many people I loved. I was aware that I was back only for a visit, not to stay for long. We were having some sort of a party/happy […]